How can you improve your social skills NOW to become the most social person you can be…when you are not socially skilled in the first place to socialize effectively to build your social skills?
Now that’s quite a dilemma, huh?
Here we have a Catch-22 example of “can’t find a job because you don’t have experience, and you don’t have experience because you can’t find a job.”
People will tell you the only best way to improve your social skills is to get out there and socialize and talk with as many people as much as possible.
Yes that is true. There is nothing like learning by doing.
But that is like throwing you on an deserted island all by yourself and tell you to just survive and “Good luck, you can do it buddy-ole-pal!”, without the necessary equipments.
You need the right tools first to help you learn how to socialize effectively whenever you are out in social gatherings, and they will also help you in terms of learning social calibration.
This is your sociability, your toolbox basically of your social mojos, like your techniques, stories, humor, lines, questions, routines, openers, and conversational materials that can be pulled out at anytime to be used.
Comedians always have their toolboxes stocked with jokes and routines before going on stage.
The tools you would want to have the most are great stories, as telling stories are pretty much the biggest things that fuel your social interaction. Have plenty of them in your arsenal.
Build up your sociability and when armed with these tools, you can practice them to develop your social skills, and you can stop relying on them as your social skills improve.
Eventually you start understanding the pattern of a good social dynamics interaction. Your social intuition will sharpen by knowing how one particular response will trigger another, and you will know how to control any social interaction.
If you want to improve your dating and social skills fast, go out a lot…even go out by yourself, if you can, so you won’t have that safety-security of the other person to come back to, and learn and recognize the patterns and social structures that control the response for the ideal outcome, even by making mistakes if you have to…and then calibrate for next time.
If you want to expedite this process, cutting all the long-years it has taken me to figure all this out for you…you need to check out my Art of Social Natural, where I go through all of this…plus many more.
Once you have done that, everything will be subconscious and automatic and here you have NOT just Natural Game…but GREAT Natural Social Game.
When you have the social skills, meeting and having people from all walks of life adding value to your life and enriching it…meeting women is natural, almost effortless; you will be meeting them through their social circle and their friends’ social circle.
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What you say is true…..practice makes perfect when it comes to conversation. Some people are born with the gift of gab..others have to work on it.
It takes time to improve social skills. Depends on what you want to achieve by doing so. The best way is to hang around people who have the skill set that you want to obtain.
It’s something I’ve had to work on is my social skills… but it’s been well worth the effort. Thanks for these tips!
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