Using Sub-Behaviors to Detect People’s Dark-Side

Sorry to disappoint all you Star Wars fan, but it’s not what you think. 🙂

There is something I like to call “sub-behaviors,” this is the very subtleties of other people’s behavior.

They say only 7% of communication are words while 93% are non-verbal, so the non-verbal are more reliable.

But I like to take this farther and use this to determine other people’s personality, not just their action.

What are their true intention?

Whenever you hang out with somebody in the present moment, of course, they are going to be the pleasant and nice person to be around within your presence.

You know what they say…to get a person to truly reveal how they feel around you, get them drunk with somebody else who they think you don’t know and let that person ask your friend how they feel about you.

You see, because they are in that relaxed calmed state and are so focused on the present moment, they are more willing to open up and not give a care to the future consequences of revealing the hardcore truth

Now let’s say, you have a friend who you are hanging out with, and they are talking crap about their other friends behind their back; but when you are hanging with that same friend of yours and that other person he was talking crap about, and all of a sudden, he automatically acts like that “person he was talking crap behind his back” is the most important person in the world, then you can bet they are willing to do the same thing behind your back.

This is much more reliable than the person’s word.

You can use this sub-behavior to determine if that person is a liar, backstabber, or hypocrite.

What you can do is…

Ask that Person A how they feel about Person B, and then get together with Person A and Person B together, and see how Person A acts around Person B.

If the discrepancy of how Person A is acting now is different then what he said, especially if Person A is acting overly nice to Person B and more important than you, then you should take this as a sign he is probably doing the same thing with you.

This is only a sign that you should be wary about trusting this Person A.

Here’s another great example I heard from the corporate world…

The boss was playing golf with his employee.

Now this employee was one of those kinds of people who knew exactly how to make others feel special whenever they were around in the present moment.

However, the boss caught that employee cheating when they were playing golf by moving the ball, when he thought nobody was looking.

And the next day, that boss immediately fired that employee.

Because if he is capable of doing that out on the field, imagine what he is doing within the company when he thinks he can get away with it…shall we say potential embezzlement?

His sub-behaviors determine his true character and personality, more than how he acts in the present moment because in the present movement, we tend to put up a persona for own best interest of how we want the other person to see us.

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