Handling Girl’s Shit Test to Get Her more Attracted to You

Girls will always shit test you no matter what, and you better be prepared to be shit tested, my friend.

Now first of all, what is a “shit test“?

If you’re thinking something vulgar and obscene, you’re absolutely right. 🙂

A shit test is random, unexpected erratic-behavior from a girl to see how you would respond, if you’re really a confident man.

I know…

Don’t we all hate it when we’re having an awesome time with a girl with the emotional-highs, and then all of a sudden with the emotional-lows, making it a constant emotional roller-coaster ride?

She says something that catches you off-guard by being angry, upset, and all the negative emotion attributes, that contradict everything that has happened that has been going so well.

This is her shit test.  She does this to see how you would respond to it.

If you can’t handle her shit tests when she’s faking these made-up negative emotions, how are you supposed to handle her if you guys are actually together when she really does experience these negative emotions?

Good question, huh?

Regardless, the most important thing is to know how to handle girls’ shit tests when they do occur.

How?

Playful-humor is the best defense for handling these shit tests.  Use play-humor and be amused by everything a girl does that conveys she’s upset or angry.  Never get sucked by a girl’s negative-frame (no pun intended), but instead, maintain a stronger playful-humorous frame that draws her into yours.

(I’ll talk more about “frames” in the future because being good at reframing situations, especially negative situations, is a very powerful part of your social skills you can have in your arsenal for attraction and the dating game or any part of your social life.)

Now, I do want to make a small caveat here…of course, sometimes a girl will really be upset, and you don’t want to be a jerk to her when’s really feeling down.

How can you tell when she really upset or just shit testing you?

Well, here’s where you’re going have to use your social intuition, but the key thing to remember is…

* If she just abruptly acts negatively towards you out of nowhere, it’s more likely than not, it’s a shit test.

* Now if it is something that has been building up for a while leading up to it, it’s probably not a shit test.

Shit Test = unexpectedly, out of nowhere negative behavior
Not Shit Test = building up for a while leading to that negative behavior

Here was a recent shit test I got:

I was seeing this extremely adorable girl, whose name so happen to be April.  It was April Fools’ Day, and I sent her a text joke about the day, and she apparently got really upset about it.

Her: “Rule #1 of being named April, avoid people who acknowledge it’s April Fools’ Day.”

Let me tell you…I was caught off guard about it because this girl has been really sweet up until that point and didn’t seem to get angry at all, and I had never seen her upset before.

Most guys would say, “I’m sorry”, “Didn’t mean to offend you”, “Did I offend you?”, “Are you offended?”, “Are you mad?”, etc.  This kills attraction big time.

This was a text-exchange so I couldn’t tell without her nonverbal-communication what was really going on, but my gut was telling me it was probably a shit test.

The key was it was so abrupt and came from out of nowhere…besides it was April Fools’ Day so it was probably one of her crude ways of getting at me.

As I said, playful-humor is the best approach to go…

My Response: “I promise you only good surprises :)”

Her Response: “Not that I don’t believe you, but a rule is a rule” (Another shit test)

My Response: “I’ll run down to Barnes & Noble and buy your rule book tomor” (This is also another playful-humorous way of saying, “I didn’t know that you don’t like people poking April Fools’ jokes at you,” instead of actually saying it, but she gets it.  I guess you can say, this is an insinuated apology without actually coming out that way by using playful-humor.)

My Response: “A new rule should be…you should meet up with me tonight…because you miss me…and i find you adorable” (Consecutive response to tease her about all her lame rules.)

Her Response: “As true as that is :)…i’m staying in manthattan for the beginning of my friend’s birthday weekend” (Her shit test finally revealed.)

Afterward, I did not respond to her at all that night, but out of the blue at 2:33am, she unexpectedly texted me twice:

Her: “i miss you. want to hang out tomorrow?”

Her: “by which I mean today :)”

Interesting, ah? Before she acted really offended by my April Fools’ joke, then a few hours later she wanted to see me.

What an emotional roller-coaster ride?

You can call it a hate-and-love relationship, but remember, girls will unexpectedly shit test you no matter what, especially when you least expect it when things are going so well…but the good news is, once you pass her shit test, she’ll become more attracted to you.

Therefore, take it as a blessing when girls give you shit tests because now you will know how to handle it, and this will be a big opportunity to create more attraction within her for you.

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