There is something I talk about in my book, The Art of Social Natural, where you eventually want your vibe to be in sync with the girl to build extreme rapport.
The vibe is the vibrational energy you are transferring to other people, almost like your own radio frequency.
During the initial approach and interaction, you want your vibe to be slightly higher than hers; this conveys high energy and all the other elements that is associated with generating attraction like humor, dominance, and cockiness.
Eventually you will have to sync that vibe down before you both depart if you want to have a strong chance of seeing her again.
Being cocky, dominant, and the funny guy does not build that deep connection. This only gets her attention in making her notice you as an appealing guy, and then you wonder why the next time you call her up or try to get her to come out, she completely forgets and doesn’t know who you are, even though you two were laughing at each other’s jokes, and just simply having a good damn time, and you assumed just because she was having a good time, you got this girl!
Why this is so?
She could have been drunk or potentially been on some drugs, but you are still just a stranger in her eyes. Why would she go through all the hazards of getting ready, putting on make-up and spend times with you instead of her friends?
Being a chick, is a lot more complicated than a dude. She lives in a conflicting emotional world where she has to present herself in one way to live up to society’s expectation and norm when she can really want to be another person.
Most guys won’t do this because they don’t want to be perceived as a nice guy or fall into the friend zone, so they remain and keep up the clown act.
This is not so. This is being multi-dimensional. You already established yourself as this guy who was all fun and appealing to her, now make her see herself being able to be a part of your world by building that deep connection.
You can learn more about this in The Art of Social Natural.
