Good communication skills are fundamental in many aspects of your life.
Being able to communicate effectively is not only essential for meeting and dating women, but at home and at work.
Your success in life is relatively equivalent to how good of a communicator you are with other people.
Whether that is persuading women to go on dates with you dates, working with others on the job, or maintaining good relationship with friends and family, these things are all done through communication.
Without it, there is just…well, nothing…just a void of emptiness drifting in space with no interaction, like a statue being ignored and not getting the response you like or outcome you want.
Whatever you want or issue you’re dealing with, you communicate that to the people to get it.
Rarely do people ever achieve anything on their own. Somewhere along the way, you are going to need to interact with another human-being…for we just can’t do everything on our own, as much as we like to think that.
Even if you came up with the most brilliant idea for the world, you’ll need people eventually to handle the other aspects to help bring it to fruition.
Therefore, I shouldn’t have to tell you the importance of mastering your communication skills to have a better control and ease over life.
Here are several starters to look at of improving communication skills now…
Simple Starting Points
These few things will help you get on the right track on how to improve communication skills:
Step 1 – Be Confident (or Fake it)
I know I’m being cliché, but confidence is important in anything you do. Nobody is naturally confident, it’s learned. If you are anxious about what you will say then you are bound to say something dumb. What you need to do is pretend to be confident, then you will start to understand that what other people think about you isn’t important. (The good ole “fake it til you make it”) Never be afraid to be the first one to talk. People will like you more when you initiate the conversation first to show interest in them.
By being calm you can show off your true personality.
Step 2 – Control your Body Language
When most people think about communication, they think about talking; however, lots of communication is done without even opening your mouth. Your body actually says a lot about you, and it’s not just your appearance. Your facial expressions, posture, and attitude can all change the meaning of what you are saying.
People pick up on your body language without even realizing it. Poor posture, for example, can signal that you aren’t really interested in what a person is saying. Be aware of what your body language is saying about you and manage it, and you’ll have much better conversations with people when they see you really mean what you say and are genuine.
Step 3 – Decipher the Nonverbal Subtleties
As well as training yourself to convey the right body language, spend time learning how to read other people’s nonverbal communication. This is great because you can see when a person is being sarcastic and when they really mean what they are saying. By understanding their body language you’ll get more truth, than simply the words coming out of their mouth.
Step 4 – Remember to Listen
When people are looking to improving communication skills, they concentrate mainly on talking, yet ignore their listening skills. A conversation is two-sided, and you shouldn’t just talk at someone but with them. You really need to spend time listening to what the other person is saying so that you can both continue the interaction. People will appreciate you taking the effort to get to know them and build upon the conversation.
Step 5 – Find Common Grounds
You should always show interest in what the other person is saying. Show that you appreciate them taking the time to talk to you, and try to look for some common grounds to chat about. If you both have a similar hobby, for example, or have similar personalities, then you will find it easier to engage with each other. Simple, but this is a great way of improving communication skills instantly. Always be on the look out for shared interests.
Step 6 – Confrontations
Nobody likes getting into conflicts with people. It’s very easy to let your emotions get the better of you and fly off the handle. However, to be a good communicator you really need to keep your cool when resolving any problem. No matter how much you try to avoid conflict, there will be times when you have to stand up for yourself. Stay firm and don’t be afraid to speak your mind. Remember that you can’t please everyone all of the time. You are going to have to upset some people.
These are the few of many things to improving communication skills right now; however, to really master communication skills is a process that will take time to complete at your own pace.
All the best communicators in the world weren’t born that way; it took a lifetime to get there.
Hopefully this has helped to show you how to improve communication skills as quickly as possible.
Improving communication skills really doesn’t have to be difficult, and it can be fun too.
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All this is great stuff. The difficulty is that if you’re not a ‘social natural’ you will have to consciously think about all this when you’re in a conversation – and the fact you’re having to think hard about body language, listening etc, can become obvious to many people around you and may make you look weird or uncomfortable.
If you’re in this situation, well it’s good to practice this with people you know, and it may take time but eventually with practice you will do these thing sub-consciously, without having to think them through when you’re in conversation.
I would personally suggest for those that struggle, Step 5 is what to look for, finding common ground. In fact go a step further and look and search for those people that share the same interests, passions and talents you have. When you have these types of similarities, you can make many friend even when your social skills are not that good. But being around and socialising with those people who share your interests and passions is a confidence booster, and will help you to improve your communications skills in general.