Men are social-beings at heart.
Think whenever you’re left isolated for a long period of time. Don’t you get depressed and lonely and crave to be around people?
Oh, you don’t think so? Alright then, try staying in by yourself on a Saturday night on your birthday, or July 4, or even New Year’s Eve, where everybody is out getting laid. Not cool, right? A feeling of a pill that is hard to swallow for you being left behind, missing out.
There. I think I just rested my case. Jury dismissed.
Yet we all crave to be social, but can fail to realize whether we’re actually being social or anti-social that fulfills this emotional need to be social.
You attract what you are doing.
With you being social, you attract people to you; and with you being anti-social, you push them away.
“Well, isn’t being social simply being around other people?”
That’s like saying you got in an elevator with somebody just because you like them.
What Is Being Social
Being social is the ability to easily interact with others fluidly, get along together, and provide awesome companionship to one another.
Some guys do appear to be more sociable that others. Nevertheless, the point is that all human-beings are socially-wired, and that level of how social we are…varies.
Now it should go without saying…it’s impossible to please everybody, everywhere, all the time. Disagreements and tensions are normal ways of life.
The important thing for you to understand that being social does not mean that you have to be friends with everybody, but appreciating others existence and respecting their diverse opinions are the fundamental aspects of being social.
Being social entails…
– Being positive. Nobody likes being around a walking-ball of negative energy full of complains.
– Has nothing to do with pleasing others but appreciating and respecting them.
– Always retaining your individuality without compromising yourself.
– Being receptive to other people to break barriers and initiate the interaction.
– Realizing you can never force others to like you or do whatever you command.
– Avoid being critical or judgmental of others’ opinions and beliefs.
– The ability to make new friends.
Actually, being social is not that hard. All it takes is the willingness to be sociable, incorporated into the different aspects of your life.
How To Be Social
There are skills to make you more sociable, commonly referred to as “social skills.”
But here are things you should be doing to be more social:
- Initiate conversation with people you come across on daily basis. Engage them whether they are friends or total strangers.
- Spend more quality time with friends and colleagues than spending time alone. Invite friends for games and enjoy each others company.
- Never turn down a social invitation. Giving excuses to avoid honoring such invitations should be avoided.
- Always try to be optimistic and positive. People like being in the company of jovial and upbeat people. Therefore, never show emotions and bitterness; try to focus only on the positivity. The more optimistic a man is, the more his life spark and attract others.
- Listening is an important virtue. When in conversation with others, ensure that you give maximum attention. Using a phone or engaging on other things suggests rudeness or lack of interest in whatever is being discussed. Always avoid such behaviors.
- Be in control of your body language. Frowning, standing at the corner, or always using the cross-arm is so discouraging and scares people away from you, especially when you are in a social function.
- Smile, make eye contact and show others that you are less intimidating. Smiling improves chances of other people approaching you.
- Relationships are normally built on mutual effort; therefore, be the one to initiate invitations, calls, and conversations. It is a sign of appreciation if you are the one who reaches out for the rest.
- Utilize opportunities to meet new friends. This expands your social circle making friends and friends of friends you never thought would happen. Basically, you should embrace any opportunity that would allow new friendships.
At the end of the day, anybody and everybody can be social. Just a little effort is needed and some consistent practice to get the hang of it.
Being social is a choice; and it is a choice well worth your wild that will bring a much exciting life for you.
Would you rather be locked indoors all the time alone, or would you rather be out having fun and enjoy what have has to offer.
I believe the choice is obvious. You already know the answer.
Get out there! That’s how to be social.
