Handling Nightclub Fights

The nightclubs

Ah yes, the scene where you’ll find the hottest girls around, all dolled-up, looking their best as they can be…unfortunately, with the added unpleasantly of aggressive, testosterone-fueled guys under the influence of alcohol wanting to start shits, making your life of getting with these girls a living hell.

These guys won’t hesitate to ruin your night and want to start fights with you, and it is going to happen once in a while if you go out regularly to the nightclub scene.

“So what am I suppose to do when I get into a fight in a nightclub?”

The best way to handle the fight is…to avoid them.

“What Gabriel? That’s it? That’s all you have to say?”

I know. I know. You want me to show you some fancy moves and techniques to knock them dead. But all seriousness, the best way to handle fights in a nightclub is to avoid them in the first place.

In martial arts, kung fu for example, you master the martial arts to make amend with yourself and your enemy so you no longer have to fight. You get good in martial arts to avoid having to use it.

“But Gabriel what if somebody actually do take a smack at you?”

Ok, ok, now on those rare occasions, when that actually do happen, you have the right to defend yourself.

I have talked about The Art of Conversational-Combat Jujitsu, when somebody bullies or verbally attacks you, you turn it right back on them to make they the fool they set out to make you to be…

A popular term for this is “amogging” (alpha male other guy) or just being “amog” (alpha male of the group).

But when it involves physicality, that’s a different story. It wouldn’t hurt to teach yourself some martial arts…and it will also make you more confident knowing you can defend yourself at the sight of trouble.

I have only been in one actual physical fight in a nightclub in my life. It was 3:15am. I was dancing by myself oblivious to everything around me, and these douchebags (yes, they were douchebags) kept walking back-and-forth intentionally bumping into me, and then apologizing.

(* As an important side-note: one thing I want you to be aware of is that these folks will intentionally do things that seem superficially accidental (such as a bump, drink spill on you), and then give an “insincere sarcastic apology” just to not push you over your boiling-threshold. You want to get right back at them, but that “insincere sarcastic apology” is a way to dilute some of that anger, otherwise you’ll be seem as the bad guy if you get boiled up after their supposedly apology. This is a way of how they control you. Just be conscious of this.)

As I said before, the best way to handle a fight is to…avoid it, so the first couple times I let it go…no big deal; however, they persisted, and I told them politely to stop and even tried befriending like they were my bros and moved to a different area on the dance-floor.

I thought for sure they would stop, but the fifth-time finally rolled around, and I had enough and confronted the guy that bumped me…and the next thing I knew, I got punched in the face from one of the friends from behind and pushed really hard from the other side from another friend. They grouped together and tried to ganged up on me, but I kept doing the roundhouse kick, pushing them back until the bouncers came and threw them out for initiating the fight, and I befriended the bouncers, and whenever I hit up that club those bouncers always have my back.

(MARTIAL ARTS TIP:  When you’re in a group fight, especially by yourself, you want to keep your distance away from your opponents as much as possible and kick them instead of punching them. If you engage yourself in close proximity with one person, you’re already focusing too much attention on that one person, and his buddies will surround you and attack from all sides…not to mention when you’re grabbed on to. That’s why you would want to kick to take them down as quickly as possible instead of punch, as kicking can reach a greater distance and have more force upon impact than punching.)

But once again, as I have stressed, the best way to handle a fight is to avoid it and prevent it from occurring.

The key is to befriend a lot of the guys so they won’t be the ones messing with you later.

Now I want to introduce you to a technique I called, “paralleling the past.”

I’ll demonstrate using that fight I had…

Because I had this happened to me, this is a story I always tell in a nightclub to befriend guys who look like they might cause trouble with me later. I’m really friendly to them, and I tell them this story how I got in a fight in a nightclub with these douchebags.

By telling this story of what happened, they will consciously dissociate themselves from it by not wanting to be like those guys, by trying not to be douchebags and starting a fight with me, or else they’re end up like those guys.

It’s kind of like what you want to avoid, you tell what would happen if it does but in another scenario in the past.

Like for this example, if these guys acted like douchebags, they would get into a fight would me, and I would beat them up, and the bouncers would still throw them out; therefore, they won’t act like douchebags (not to me anyway) and pick a fight with me.

A parallel story of the past. If their behaviors start to coincide with this, history would repeat itself. This is paralleling the past to avoid the same future.

Using this technique “paralleling the past,” you can avoid a lot of potential fights, and even make friends that night with a lot buff guys who would have your back.

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2 Responses to Handling Nightclub Fights

  1. Robbie says:

    Way to go Gabriel! Teach those punks a lesson! 😉

  2. Yancy says:

    Insights like this liven tihngs up around here.

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