Traditional dating advices for men have been engraved on the idea that in order for a man to attract a woman, he has to be tall, handsome, wealthy, and well-endowed.
BUT…the NEW conventional dating advices for men are that he just has to be confident, dominant, funny, indifferent to what other people think, and have strong self-beliefs that he is a very attractive guy that all women want him…and that’s it, they leave it at that.
That is a great start, but they will soon realize that won’t take them far. There is much more to the piece to the puzzle. Every woman is different.
The thing about guys starting off learning how to get better with women is that they first become very narrow in their behaviors with women, and it takes over their personality and affects the way they not only interact with women but with people in general because they’re going through a process.
For example, the biggest notion in dating advice, is that being a bad boy will get the girl. That will work on some girls, but for somebody who is not so into bad boys will get turned-off.
I made this mistake too. When I was starting out learning this stuff, I was doing the things assuming they were attractive to women without any sort of calibration awareness and became a total jerk that it took over my personality and how I interacted with the world; and let’s just say, I was avoided a lot as well as made enemies.
Different identity attracts different women. Not every woman will want the same type of macho-meatheads.
After that period of experimentation, then they start learning the calibration aspects of it, the exceptions and tweaks needed to pickup women, and are able to see them and calibrate their responses every time. This is when they really start to get good, when they assess every different response being received and give the ideal response back.
You have to be attuned to each type of woman she is and social calibrate your behavior accordingly, otherwise you will get doing the same thing to every woman when it may not work for that particular type of woman.
I think there is one erroneous piece of information in this post. I do realy think that women are not different, each is a slightly altered variant of her neighbour.
They are so many to want slight variants of the same thing… You have little manoeuver, but one should remember that women are also attracted by humans, not just Hugo Boss models.
Your opinions are greatly appreciated. Yes, you’re right, there are universal traits women want.
You have to be able to see it through the girls’ perspective, and not just assumed they’re all go for the same types of guys.
If that were the case, there would be an underlying connotation that if you could get your first girlfriend, you could get any woman you want just because they were all the same.
Why do certain girls go for different types of guys?
Certain guys have certain advantage over other guys due to, for example, stereotypes working in their favor, and that’s what different girls are attractive to. If you want to attract the types of girls you want in your life, become the types of guys she’s attractive to.
And I never said you had to be a Hugo Boss model to attract women…but it wouldn’t hurt. 😉
I can say with Rencontre. You’re kinda of out there, but I there are different women.
Thanks for this dating tipp!