You Got Flakes?!

No, no, no, I’m not taking about the little white stuffs in your hair or the architectural structure of a beautiful tiny frozen water molecule under a microscope.

So there you see an absolutely gorgeous, stunning girl right in front of you at 12 o’clock.  BAM!  You approach her.  You go in with the confidence of a bull, and she’s the redness you’re drawn to.  You actually get her number, and you’re so proud of yourself and get an ignited warm feeling that you did it and clap yourself on the back.

Then you tried calling her, no answer…and no call back.

(Sometimes later…) you text her, no reply.

A couple days later, still no reply.  You text her once more, and again no reply.

The next day, still no reply.

What’s going on, fellow number-closer?

That’s right, those are flakes.

Ah yes, we all have gotten those from times to times, and for those who boast they have never gotten flakes…well, they’re not trying hard enough, not getting enough numbers.

The word “flake” used in dating terminology refers to a lack of compliance follow-up, she does not comply with any of your response.  Even if the number she gave you was valid, she will not necessary respond to any of your post-phone follow-up.

Doesn’t have to be her not meeting up with you.  It can be anything involving “non-compliance follow-up” on her part.

Now why do you get flaky numbers from girls?

That’s because you failed to do your part to plant for a solid number.

Imagine that feeling you get when somebody’s handling out random flyers to you on the street that you could care less about, and you got one?  That is how you will be perceived in her eyes, another flyer, unless you make it memorable.

That is why on the initial approach you have to create some sort of memorable impression to implant a story in her head to make you stand out.  Especially if it is a cold approach, forget the mundane superficial talk, like “How’s your day?” “Nice/Terrible weather, huh?”…and then ask “What’s your number?”

For myself, for example, when I’m at a nightclub, honestly, I don’t really bother asking for a girl’s number unless I already made out with her; that will create for me a higher compliance follow-up rate after the night is over because I know from my experience, if I approach a girl in a nightclub and only talk to her for a couple minutes and get her number, it’s pointless, with all the stimuli going around, alcohol in her system, and other random guys she’ll probably give her number to, I’ll just be another random flyer being received by her.

Not much of a strong story to plant in her mind, eh?

That’s why I make sure that I’m unforgettable in her mind before I even bother asking for her number to have a higher compliance follow-up.

Now I know some people will argue with me and say I should just go get her number anyway.

Yes it is a number’s game; the more numbers you get the more girls you get to hang out, but wouldn’t you rather have a solid number with a high compliance follow-up rate than a number that clogs your phone (That’s like still investing in a stock, which there are signs you know is plummeting)?

You want to strive for qualitative quantity.

Here in this case based on my past experience, meeting a girl in nightclub and only talking to her for a few minutes, will result in a zero percent compliance follow-up.

That’s why you want to maximize those compliance follow-up percentages during the interaction by making it memorable and unique, like creating a story in the girl’s mind.

Do something out of the ordinary that she wouldn’t expect to break her pattern to how she usually responds to things.

What are things you can do to make yourself memorable to increase your compliance follow-up rate?

Go on instant spontaneous dates.  Take her to the coffee shop next door.  Go grocery shopping.  Go browsing in the local pharmacy.  (Though this might not always go as she could be busy.)

Ask her to help you out or something, like for directions, browsing for something, or whatever, but be sure she has that firm story implanted in her mind about you.   (Asking for help is probably the easiest and safest way.)

Here something I do if I approach a girl on the street or store, I would do some ballroom dancing with her right there in front of everybody (even though I’m terrible at it :)).  That is definitely out of the ordinary and gets her to remember me.

Stalling for time to keep the interaction going with her.

Do as many different activities as possible in the amount of time allowed.  Walk with her to as many blocks as possible, and if there happens to be some theatrical, attention-grabbers like an accident, show, etc, savor those moments with her and enjoy it to develop a stronger story for her to have in her mind.

I know these probably applied mostly to day game, meeting women during the day and on the streets, but the basic premise of implanting a story in her mind still applies everywhere, as I said before I don’t ask for a girl’s number in a nightclub unless I made out with her.  The making-out is an implanted story that will add another point to the compliance follow-up rate.

Don’t just be the guy that approaches her and talks to her for a few minutes and ask for the number.  That will be like the way the girl feels when receiving random flyers on the street, which is you being the flyer.  Your compliance follow-up rate will be very low.  Even though the number is legit, we want to keep those compliance follow-up rate high, so to get her to meet up with you and start building a connection/relationship.

You want solid numbers?  Well that’s how you get them, implant the story to build instant connection.  Establish as much stories of you 2 in her head to have stronger numbers and post-meetups.

I’ll talk more about this idea of how implanting story and how you can apply it not just for meeting women but to all kinds of social situation to build instant connection with anybody, and I’ll provide you more examples and some specific examples of mine.

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