Have you ever felt like when you were doing something that you just didn’t know how, but you just felt so immensely focused and effortlessly at eased without forcing yourself?
That is what we called “being in state“. You are almost unconscious, like you no longer feel you are there in your immediate surrounding and only focus on the task at hand. You no longer think, you just do.
You always want to be in that great state when you are out there meeting women because it will affect your overall mood and hence your performance.
Even if you aren’t in state yet, talking to people and opening successful sets will gradually get you into state.
Now here is a great mind exercise to get into state and feel indestructible in social events when you are out meeting women:
“Do you feel entitled?” “Do you have a sense of entitlement?”
Imagine yourself being the coolest person in the room and that you have title and status above anybody else, and you will naturally automatically act like it because of those entitlements. Alright, duh, I know that sounds so obvious, but to better illustrate what I am trying to say, let me ask you this question…
If you were transported back in time, to your same high school classes again in your old body, and assuming you have forgotten about everything you learned when you were there, after having gone through all what you have experienced in the real world and with those real world experiences, wouldn’t you be a lot confident about retackling them?
You would learn everything with no nervous-inferiority about the subject matters being difficult because you should be entitled to learn them easily considering you have been in the same situation before, even though you have forgotten the subject matters, and have gone through all those world experiences. Those factors will entitle your mind that everything should be a breeze, being in those classrooms again.
Once again you don’t know the materials or have forgotten them, but your mind is telling you that you are entitled and this should be very easy. You would feel a sense of entitlement that you deserved to be the top student.
Now think of it back to getting girls. You deserve that sense of entitlement because you have already dated Playboy models, porn stars, celebrities, no matter how ridiculous it is. Since you have dated those high-caliber women, then you are entitled to get any girl, and the girl you just meet should be yours and is like nothing, compared to those high-caliber women you dated, and you will convey those attractive traits which she can’t resist and will want you.
Or perhaps in terms of generic social dynamics. At a formal cocktail party, you are the president’s son or the prince of England so it’s your entitlement people should be drawn to you and respect you. In a night club, you are the bar owner, or Tommy Lee or Brad Pitt, who have these entitlements to get hot girls and they want you.
Notice that even though you might not be these high-value people, you’re conveying that. Are you being delusional? Perhaps you can say that. This is where entitlement comes from, this perception of yourself, leading you to effortlessly get the girl without trying so hard.
However, do note that being state won’t make up for if there is a lack of skill set, but once you pass that threshold, you can always bounce right back when things don’t go the way you want because nothing can affect your unshakable positive-state.
Remember this is only one part of the game that will get you in the right direction whenever you’re out. If you want the full in-depth education, take a look at my Art of Social Natural.
Basically I should just be extremely delussional