While flipping through past high school classmates’ yearbook pictures or clicking through online rating sites to vote and determine “who is the most attractive,” our natural instinct to judge and evaluate others physically-speaking automatically turns on.
Whether we consider it or not, some sort of judgment is passed because part of the circle of life is finding our mate via the “chemistry” we share with others.
Attraction at First Sight
When we first “cross paths” with someone who attracts your attention, this “special” somebody is generally easy on the eyes, clean-cut and one of their physical features replays in our mind like a catchy tune when we revisit our “visual flirtation.”
However, the difference between “in-person attraction” and “online attraction” is important to know. It’s no longer just a “pretty face,” but rather that face has to win over its possible suitor personality-wise as well. This way if you do decide to meet in-person, you’ll both know what to anticipate physically and charismatically.
Showcasing Our Physical and Charismatic Strong Points
Online dating has transformed into the latest craze of the 21st century, hence, potential daters should learn how to meet new people virtually.
As a result, while creating your first online dating profile with the site of your choosing, you must consider not only the effectiveness of an attractive and up-to-date profile picture, but also include interesting info related to you in the “about me” section.
Furthermore, add in factual details, but in a creative way: instead of just writing “I love going out with my friends and dancing,” upload a picture of you and your friends at your favorite night club having a good time. So you’re SHOWING what you enjoy doing since TELLING while using an online messenger or just reading profile information isn’t as easy to convey since you aren’t face-to-face.
Ideally, your profile photo should be eye-catching, well-focused from your best angles, up-to-date and if possible, of you doing one of your preferred hobbies. This allows you expose some of your personality traits as well.
How to Avoid the Discomfort of a First Chat
Meeting someone on a blind date for the first time in-person can be very awkward, and the same thing can be said about online dating as well. However, there are several advantages for online dating since you don’t have to stir up the courage to go face-to-face with your date yet.
With online dating, it’s simply a matter of putting on the right smile, switching on absolute positivity mode, keeping the situation calm and collected, and most importantly, being yourself, but with confidence!
Confidence and trust are key to build any type of relationship, especially when it is an online one, being that it is difficult to express emotion so that the other person can determine if you’re telling the truth or not.
The objective of your chat should be to get to know each other’s personalities, likes/dislikes, hobbies, etc.
The first conversation should be informative and 100% you, but it definitely shouldn’t be a bragging session about all of your biggest achievements, jobs, etc. The goal isn’t to bombard the other person with endless details about your life, but rather have a light and entertaining conversation to see if the “chemistry” catalyzes or not.
From there after throwing the seed, the rest will blossom.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Ukraine Lover writes regularly about relationship and dating topics for young people and these articles get published in a variety of dating blogs and online magazines including UkraineMate Online Dating Agency (a Ukrainian Dating Website) and other dating sites. He does see a great value in online dating for connecting people from the whole world using new technologies. He spend his free time reading and learning more about human relationship to improve and share his knowledge about online relationships.
