Pardon the profanity, but as the title says…this is about how to fuck your female-friends.
Yes, I could have censored it, like every time someone says “F*ck!” there is that buzzing-sound “Beep!”…but I rather say it like it is keep it raw.
As my 7th-grade teacher always said, “Say what you mean. Mean what you say.”
Anyway, I’m sure you have that one female-friend of yours, or even multiple female-friends, who you want to get into the sack with from giving you blue-balls but are stuck in the dreaded friend zone and to want get out of it…to be more.
Well, my latest interview is with Frank Kermit, who is a dating/relationship expert and has been featured in various medias and news, such as the Global Morning News:
Frank has managed 5 girlfriends/lovers all at the same time…and talks about making female lover-friends and turning existing female-friends into lovers or girlfriend to get out of that friend zone.
1.) So Frank, or can I just call you Franky, what’s your story my man? What was your younger days like growing up, particularly with the ladies?
My Story, got stood up at the prom, got my first girlfriend in college, and dated a little, but never could figure it out.
In university finally got lucky again and dated a girl for almost 3 years on and off (who I considered my future wife and fiancé). Lost ex-fiancé to one of my best friends, 5 years of no sex, hung out with a girl for two years that just wanted to be friends with me, and she married a guy just like me…but not me.
Became suicidal during holiday season and made a decision. Was finally going to figure this out, or just kill myself.
2.) There are guys out there who spent years being information-junkie learning about picking up women. What was the biggest turning point in your life when, all of a sudden, all these dating and relationship information started to click? And how did you get there?
During a period of time I call “me development.” IT was the time I finally was managing 5-lovers ongoing. That is when I had evidence that what I knew and what I was doing was working. I was walking in the subway system and was going over in my head how I was going to manage my week between putting in the time necessary my full time day job, and who I was going to see, email and call over the next 5 days. That is when I knew I had the basics down.
I got there by documenting everything I was doing, keeping track of what worked, what did not work, and being focused on the goal of mastering relationships while being flexible in my approach to stick with what works and quickly getting rid of what did not work.
3.) One of your specialty areas most guys would be interested in is turning your female-friends into lovers. How do you go about making female-friends, not to mention, multiple female-friends with the additional status as “lover-friends”? Are there some obvious signs she wants to be more than friends?
The key is about having your female-friends see and feel that you meet the emotional needs necessary to access that part of her mind that allows her to categorize you as a potential lover. This is a little challenging if she had previously classified you as “just a friend”, but it can be done by putting enough distance between the two of you, and re-introducing her into your life when you have your lover-type behaviors entrenched.
I never recommend that guys wait for “signs”. IF he does not know how to read signs, she might have already given him the chance and he missed it. In my coaching I focus on teaching guys to go for what they want, signs or not. If she likes you after your efforts, she will become your lover. That is the ONLY sign I am interested in.
4.) How do you balance and maintain your female-friends and female lover-friends? Do you let them know about each other? Is there ever any emotional issue, such as jealousy, if so, how do you handle that?
IT is nobody’s business who you have sex with. There is NO sharing of information UNLESS you have reached a certain point in your relationship with her that requires the sharing of such information.
For example, female-friends are entitled to zero information about your love life. The less they know the better.
Friends with benefits do not even need to know if you have other lovers UNLESS you have to stop seeing one because you have gotten more monogamous with another lover.
Non-exclusive girlfriends need to know there are others, but the details need not be shared UNLESS they have reached a higher level of commitment.
Primary partners must know everything, as primary partners get a veto on the other girls you see.
5.) How do you distinguish the fine-line among a fuck-buddy, lover-friend, and girlfriend, as these 3 statuses intertwine with a girl sexually? The word “friend” has become so ambiguous these days, for example, you both already kissed but haven’t gotten sexual, or already had sex only once or having sex regularly…YET still consider yourselves as friends.
Good question.
To be clear the difference between friend-only and friends-with-benefits is that you have gotten sexual with a friend with benefits.
Women friends that you have made out with would, technically be considered low-level friends with benefits, however, they merit no commitment of sharing secrets.
The idea behind friends with benefits is that you are only friends PUBLICLY and are sexual privately. This is to ensure that you are both free to seek out your soul-mates without interference.
If you are publicly friends with benefits, the even if you SAY that you are just friends, you are BEHAVING as a more commitment relationship, and THAT is where relations become way more complicated than they have to be.
For more info on Friends with Benefits here are some articles and audio interviews I did on the subject: www.franktalks.com/friends-with-benefits
6.) What about female-friends, who guys already screwed up any chance of getting out of friend zone OR are no longer friends as a result of trying to be more…what’s the best approach you give them?
Find out exactly what emotional needs of the women that their screw ups violated. There are a specific number of emotional needs that had to be violated for her to not even want to be friends with a guy she knows likes her.
Once you figure those out using my emotional needs analysis to understand why you got friend-zoned to begin with, then you can adopt repeating behavior patterns to eliminate those screw ups from your behavior patterns, and when you meet with her again (you make that happen), you share your catharsis story to demonstrate your new value and how you are unable to screw up the same way again.
This creates a window of opportunity that will give the chance for her to re-classify you as a lover-potential instead of friend or creep that she has to get out of her life.
7.) You have a brand new product called From Friends To Lovers. Could you tell us more about it? How is it different from other similar products out there?
I do not just teach you WHAT to do, I explain WHY it works. In this program, I teach you what you did right (that she made you a friend), what you did wrong (that she did not make you a lover), and what to do next (the actions to take to make her your lover).
Basically, we are talking the Luck out of LOVE. Once you understand the behavior patterns that got you friend-zoned, you will then be able to predict when it may happen in the future, and change the behaviors before you ever get friend-zoned again.
By teaching you the WHY it happens, using a predictable emotional needs analysis tool, you will be able to undo the damage of the past, and create a future where this is not going to be a problem for you again.
8.) To you guys, if you liked what Frank shared with you today, check out Frank’s new product. And Frank, thank you for your time. Lastly, where do you get your hats from? 🙂
The hats are from Henri Henri in Montreal. It is the same company that makes the canes I use AND the same company that the term “Hat Trick” was originated from in the professional sport of Canadian Hockey.
Some good stuffs in here.