Confidence VS Arrogance
A lot of people mistake arrogance for confidence, that is when you think you are being confident with your demeanor, but you are just coming off as arrogant.
Arrogance is NOT confidence, it is fake confidence.
This fake confidence, people can sniff-out for a lack of a better word, that you are making up for some other insecurities; therefore, this arrogance is a shield covering up your own flaws.
True confidence, is an inner sense of ease and calmness.
You are secured with your own place in the world, so you are not threatened by anything and can give back.
You are not hiding anything, so you don’t need to be put up an image just because you are worried nobody is going to like you.
You come from a place of abundance, so you just give value from a strong secured place in yourself and ask for nothing in return; and it is NOT being a jerk either with all your values.
You don’t want to be this arrogant douche-bag.
As an example, most of the famous successful rockstars are not these douche bags, getting so caught up in their glamour, and people worship them. They provide extensive entertainment value but retain a certain amount of modesty, and let their music do the talking for them.
Have value, but remain modest.
Here is the thing about being a jerk and a nice-guy…
The thing about guys who learn this stuff is that they feel the need to be a jerk everywhere, assuming it would get the girl; therefore, become this jerk to everybody they meet, but if you were truly successful, secured, and confident with women, there would be no need to be a jerk to make up for those hidden insecurities and fears and what you were lacking in.
Yet at the same time, if you were successful, there would be no need to be a nice-guy because you don’t need to be nice to make up for something else; you just don’t care and know you already have other sorts of value.
So they both fall into the same realm.
But which one would you rather be?
There is never anything wrong with being friendly as long as it is not out of your expense for making up something you are lacking.
The biggest acceptable notion that nice-guy never gets the girls is quite ignorant. That’s like saying the earth is flat is an absolute truth, and just leave it at that.
I have seen many nice-guys get the girls, and it even puzzled me too, but they do it in a way that doesn’t make them look weak.
Like I have always said, never compromise your self-worth and value.
That is why girls don’t like the typical nice-guy who compromise his own value just for them. They don’t want you to. They want you to still act like the high-value person, but without being a jerk about it.
BABES ARE ATTRACTED TO JERKS LIKE ME!
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Ok dude, you’re reading and thinking about this too much. As long as you get results, there is nothing wrong with being arrogant. I see it as the end justifies the mean. Being arrgoant doesn’t matter and only how you see view. I think you’re being too much on the soft side.