Jon Sinn here, and today I’m going to be giving you a brief introduction into using cold reading with women.
What is Cold Reading?
Cold reading is the art of using truisms and information you gather while talking to a person to make them feel as if you understand them better than they understand themselves. The goal of cold reading is to describe the world as the other person sees it.
With women you want to use cold reading to make the woman feel as if you understand her. This triggers one of my attraction triggers; being a man who understands women. It also builds incredible levels of rapport. So cold reading is very much a multi-use skill with women.
So let’s talk about the 3 ways we can use cold reading from meeting a woman to talking to her, and give some examples:
1st way as a transition off the opener. A great way to move the conversation off of whatever you used to start it is, is to use a cold read. Here I would use a less in-depth “mini” cold read. This is a great tactic because it moves the subject of the conversation onto the woman. Everyone’s favorite topic of conversation is themselves and mini cold reads allow us to quickly move to that topic.
Let’s look at some examples:
1. Not from here. This is a great transition cold read. If the girl is not from wherever you are, she will want to know how you knew that. If she isn’t, she’ll want to know how you knew she wasn’t from there.
2. Only/Middle/Youngest Child. This is a great cold read because you have exactly 1/3rd chance of being right. I’d say something like: You’re totally an only child right? And if she wasn’t and instead was an oldest child, I’d fix it by saying, “Oh you know how when you meet people that are really independent? I always assume those people are only children. But it makes sense you were an oldest child because you had to be confident for more than yourself.”
3. Daddy’s girl/Girls girl. Another easy to use mini cold read, is the Daddy’s girl/Girls girl cold read. I’d say something like “I can tell you’re a real daddy’s girl. You totally were a tomboy growing up right?”
The 2nd way to use cold reading is to generate attraction.
Let’s look at some examples:
The Sign Reading: This is a very cool cold read that will give you a 50-50 chance of guessing a woman’s sign as soon as you start talking to her.
Here’s how it works:
There are 12 signs:
Capricorn: Dec-Jan
Aquarius: Jan-Feb
Pisces: Feb-Mar
Aries: Mar-Apr
Taurus: Apr-May
Gemini: May-June
Cancer: June-July
Leo: Jul-Aug
Virgo: Aug-Sept
Libra: Sept-Oct
Scorpio: Oct-Nov
Sagittarius: Nov-Dec
These break down into 4 categories:
Fire: Aries, Leo, Sagittarius
Earth: Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn
Air: Gemini, Libra, Aquarius
Water: Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces
So we can have a 50-50 chance of guessing her sign right by guessing if she’s either an Fire sign (Aries, Leo, Sagittarius) or an Air sign (Gemini, Libra, Aquarius). Now there are 6 other signs out there, but I’ve covered half of all signs by asking her a simple question. And if she is either of those two signs she will be amazed by how you were able to guess it so easily.
This next cold read works best with very attractive women; I’m talking 9s and 10s.
“I bet you totally attract the wrong kind of me and even though you get told you’re attractive a lot you’re your own worse critic.”
Every woman is their own worst critic especially women who are told they are attractive a lot.
Ok now let’s talk about the 3rd easy way to use cold reading with women, framing and reinforcing.
One of the great things about cold reading is that it encourages you to see the world through another person’s eyes. This is incredibly powerful because it allows you to bring out and frame the parts of her personality you like.
For example if I meet a woman and can tell she’s a strong, independent type I can bring out those parts by saying things like “I can tell you’re really independent, and you make your own rules up as you go along.” Or “I can tell you’re the kind of girl who does whatever she wants no matter what other people tell her to do.”
Now this is helpful by itself, but it’s really powerful because it allows you to apply social pressure to her. For example if I’ve used the above lines, and I invite her back to my place I can reinforce thee frames by saying something like “I know someone as independent as you isn’t going to let her friends tell her to not come with me, right?” And now because she agreed with the earlier cold read (which most people will do as long as you appeal to their vanity) she now will feel a pressure to act in accordance with that frame set using cold reading.
So those are just 3 ways cold reading can be used to talk to women; to transition into a conversation about the woman herself, to build attraction, and to frame and reinforce behavior.
Be sure to try to work some cold reading in the next time you talk to an attractive woman.
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