Have you ever been continuously lied to by women?
They continuously give you excuses-after-excuses when you’re supposed to hang out with her.
And you know full well…they’re lying.
First of all, this is a sign of unreliability and her not respecting you.
It stings and may infuriate you…but control it.
Or…
You can play it cool, and say “Oh, that’s ok. No big deal.” because you’re a man of many options.
But here’s the downside to this…
This can border on the “nice-guy route” and lets her know she can walk over you…killing the attraction.
The key here is trying to strike a balance between going all out “confronting her” (showing her who’s the big man not to be messed with) and “playing it cool” (like you’re a high-status man not easily bother by such trivial matters).
Beat the Liar at Her Own Game
Instead, make an “Outrageous Funny-Story” to convey that you know that she is lying.
I have talked before about the social structure I called “the Assumptive Outrageousness” for handling testy, unpleasant social situations by being assumptive…
This outrageous funny-story works in similar fashion, but for this different purpose of handling girls’ lies.
By responding in the form of an outrageous funny-story will allow her to know how you feel by being on the receiving-end of being in your shoes.
Regardless if she is lying or not, or just you don’t know, it will still work its magic…
If she were lying, this will make her feel like you know that she is lying what you are feeling and might make her feel busted and she might even spit the truth then, or if she is not lying, it will just be a little fun joke.
So it can go both ways, but both in your favor…bi-winning, or simply “WINNING” as Charlie Sheen would say.
For example, if you were supposed to go on a date with a lovely gal and she flaked out on you with a no show, and she texted you the next day saying, “I’m so sorry. Blah. Blah. Blah. How was your night?”
What guy hasn’t had that happened?
If you haven’t, then you need to at least experience something like that once in your life, as Tyler Durden from Fight Club would say…
“How much can you know about yourself if you’ve never been in a fight?”
Well, how much can you can know about yourself to become a better man if you never been rejected or flaked on by women?
(By the way, here’s my previous article on how to avoid the flakes with girl and get them to commit on a date.)
Here are examples of outrageous funny-stories you can tell:
– “I was walking home last night, right? And there were some lights, but not a lot, you know? And this duck came out of the ground and said, ‘I am the devil and I hate you dammit!” so I kicked it, it died. The end.”
– “You know what happened last night? Jesus came down to my front-door with a 6-pack, 8 hookers, and a bag of Caribbean marijuana, and we all smoke that joint.”
Or short and simple…
“You know what I would have gone…but I broke my leg.”
“Ah yeah about last night, I changed my mind…my cat just died.”
The more outrageous and ridiculous it is, the better…the more she’ll get the point and feel what you’re feeling.
One more example involving your reactional skills…
You react in a playful-humor way (my favorite special ingredient to handling women) to actually imply you got it…to let them know exactly how it feels to use their own formula back on them.
For example, lets say you’re supposed to go out with a girl.
You texted her on the weekend…
“Lets meet at so-and-so.”
“Do you want to go to so-and-so?”
…and you don’t hear back from her until 3 days later, and she said something like, “Hey sorry! I just saw this!”
Obviously, bullshit! What girl doesn’t check her phone within 3 days especially over the weekend?
As said before, don’t get angry and call her out on it…not directly at least. Tease her about, sprinkled with “playful-humor” like you get it was bullshit…
But you’re not necessary doing it directly at the same with the humor injected.
Like for example:
“Haha, I just saw Santa Claus too.”
She will get somehow you’re on to her that she’s being less than honest…letting her know exactly how it feels to have a taste of her own medicine…so she knows you’re not somebody to be bullshitted to.
This is verbal aikido at its finest.
You’re reflecting the emotion back on her from her bullshit. She says some bullshit, and now it’s bouncing right back on her.
However, if she’s a socially-savvy girl and goes along with it, responding back with something like…
“Wow where?”
You make it much more over-the-top ridiculous…
“Just now! He came down and visited me, and gave me a big ass present saying that I’ve been a good boy this year. He also gave you one asking me to give it to you.”
This will definitely change the dynamic around because she went along with it, and you just anted up the ridiculous-BS. It’s become a role-play. You can use this either way to meet up with her or just have some good-clean fun.
Now if she keeps going along with the steam…keep getting more ridiculous with your responses.
Heal Broken Wounds for Massive Attraction
Next step then is to hug-and-makeup…
This is OPTIONAL but IMPORTANT to sort-of-like NOT make her think you hate her or something. Girls can be very sensitive to subtle details.
Not ONLY will she NOW know to be more honest with you, but she’ll respect you more once you guys hug-and-makeup.
Like I teach in my Art of Social Natural, the Mountain Emotional Effect, HATE-to-LOVE is a major increase-spike in one’s attraction towards one another.
The stronger the difference of the polar-2, the initial-emotion A to the current-emotion B, the more attraction; love-after-hate is stronger than love-after-neutral.
Same thing on the opposite spectrum from LOVE-to-HATE.
The stronger the hate will be from more amount of love and time you invested. Just like betrayal is the strongest painful emotion in the world, when you thought you could put your love and trust into somebody, and then they betray you…making you wasted all those time and investment on them.
Reason being when you meet a girl, you want to get her invested in you as much as possible because when comes to losing you…she would have wasted all that time hanging with you for nothing.
Why I advocate when you first meet a girl, you need to ask her out as soon as possible (instead of following some 3-days rule) to get her immediately invested in you. (“When to Ask a Girl Out?“)
Every child is his or her parent’s most prized possession from all the money, time, and effort the parent spent investing in him or her.
Apply this to women in your dating life and friends in your social life.
So now you…the next time any girl lie to you…use HER OWN magic formula back against her.
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