You see them all the time…
The hot girls on the dance-floor with all the self-confidence being all dolled up with their hot friends showing off their sexy bodies at work with the graceful movement to the ecstatic music and dashing lighting, arousing your fancy…and you get overwhelmed by all these stimuli, and you want to crawl up in your little shell, wishing you knew how to master the dance-floor and easily attract girls on dance-floor.
Well, I got news for you…dance-floor game is the easiest way to pick up girls!
“Huh? What have you been smoking Gabriel? You mean the almighty intimidating dance-floor where all the hottest girls conglomerate with the strongest bitch shield pulling their hot friends away, not to mention approach anxiety of approaching girls and there are the other buffed meathead-douchebags making our life a miserable hell…is the easiest place to get girls?”
Absolutely…that is if you know how to do it right, and you won’t even know what approach anxiety is.
“Ahhh, you just had to add in the ‘if you know how to do it right’ Gabriel?”
Don’t worry, it’s very simple.
I like to call today’s session as “How to attract and approach girls on the dance-floor…and not look like another douche desperately trying to get laid?”
Fancy, huh?
“So Gabriel…what’s the almighty secret to attracting girls on dance-floor?”
…dance slowly.
That is a biggie…dance slowly 100% involved in yourself with the music, oblivious to everything else going on around you.
Don’t be looking around the room. Let your dancing be slow and inward like you don’t really care about the attention, and not outward seeking attention.
The thing about most guys on the dance-floor is that they’ll either be standing there, not doing anything but staring around like a predator searching for girls, and taking up valuable dance-floor space; or they’ll be holding their drinks, and just nodding their head, giving their body a tiny swing back-and-forth, overall half-assing it, and still staring around like a predator.
Now on the opposite side of the spectrum, there are the douchebags, acting all hyper and attention-seeking (“Hey! Hey! Look at me! I’m trying to get attention!”). They move very fast and abrupt, not having any fluidity in their movements, looking around while waving their hands in the air trying to draw attention to themselves. It’s douchy, and it’s try-hard.
By moving slowly, deliberately, fully engaged in the music, you will differentiate yourself from all the other guys. You’re not really seeking attention, but it draws attention because it’s different. It conveys an air of mystery and intrigue.
The way you’re dancing on the dance-floor I would describe it as being “the silent-attention-seeker” who is somehow in the background minding his own business and doing his own thing slowly, and who doesn’t care about the attention but getting it anyway.
However, the important thing is you have to be really 100% engulfed in the dancing and the music. Feel it and move to it, or it will come off as fake like those other guys who are only half-assing it by just nodding their head and barely swinging their body back-and-forth, but girls know their only intention is to get with them that is spelled clearly as daylight on their forehead. This is very unattractive to girls.
Dancing tips to help you is to close your eyes when you’re on the dance-floor and just move your body slowly and fluidly to the music with a certain smooth rhythm so it doesn’t look abrupt like a douchebag. Don’t pay attention to the room, focus on your inward energy and move to it.
Do this at first to show you’re a non-threatening, cool guy. You will attract the eyes of every girl around you. Then after a while, you can start scanning for girls around you, but don’t do it by looking up like you’re a stalker. Instead, tilt your head to the floor so it looks like you’re staring at the floor, and look around with your peripheral-vision for girls who are staring and smiling at you. Those girls are the ones who find you attractive.
Go to those girls, and approach them directly. Here you can say whatever you want but just be bold and confident in it because you already had their attention by them staring and smiling at you dancing. Now ask them to dance. If they refuse, continue dancing like what you were doing, like it’s no big deal and look for the next girl through your peripheral-vision and approach that girl on the dance-floor.
Attract the girls first with your dancing, then approach them on the dance-floor. If you approach them first, you have a couple seconds to make the girl attracted to you; however, by dancing prior…you’ve been building that attraction up all night.
Hence, that’s why I called this “Attract and Approach Girls on Dance-floor”, instead of “Approach and Attract Girls on Dance-floor”.
Another brownie bonus to picking up girls on dance-floor, is that there’s no conversation involved. So if you’re a little lacking on the verbal game, it doesn’t matter. Girls are on dance-floor for a reason, not to have a chit-chat.
Now if you want to engage them conversationally, isolate them to a quiet location…that is, once you establish your coolness and attractiveness on the dance-floor.
Dancing is a chick-magnet and a great way to meet girls, and you don’t have to be a professional dancer to do so, though I will admit taking salsa and ballroom dancing will help dramatically.
Even if you’re just had a bad day, just go out and don’t put too much expectation on yourself hoping to meet girls, but with the sole intention of just going out to dance. The pressure would be relieved off of you, but as bonus, you will meet girls along the way.
To summarize, when you’re dancing on the dance floor…
Move slowly and smoothly. Don’t look directly at the crowd, like you’re seeking validation and attention. Make it appear like you’re staring at the floor or up in the ceiling, or better yet close your eyes, that way you’re more engaged in your auditory sense to the music and in control of your body movement without all the other stimuli affecting you.
You’re just a guy who doesn’t care about what else is going on around you, and doing your own thing in your own little world. You’re rising above the crowd without any intention to…and you will attract girls on the dance-floor like a chick-magnet.
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