The Seduction Community Backfires

Have you ever really wondered why some people just get dating and meeting women the very first few times they learned this stuff and start getting immediate results, while others learned like forever and going out…but are still struggling?

That’s because they are missing the most essential core component that makes pickup and meeting women work that everybody is leaving out.

From Seduction Community to Social Community

As men coming from a place where we didn’t have much success with women early in our lives, we started researching how to be attractive to women by reading books, listening to self-help audios, watching tutorial videos, and even attending live-seminars and coaching.

We got drawn into what was known as the “Seduction Community” and because you’re reading this, you could probably relate to this or had a similar experience.

Now the Seduction Community, in case you’re not familiar with it, is a society involving men devoted to the arts and crafts from the point of meeting women to eventually getting into a potential relationship with her…but overall improving themselves to be more attractive to women; and the words “pickup artist” and “pua“ became terms to describe these guys who learn these materials and go out and use these techniques to try to pickup women, commonly known as sarging within the Seduction Community.

There have been some good and bad to come out of the Seduction Community, and critics are always up for debate about this, but we’ll leave that for another discussion.

For myself, having been involved in the Seduction Community, I did notice a flaw that it was focused so much on picking up women that it failed to mention the most important part of all…your basic social skills that builds upon and set everything else.

Now why do we need to learn social skills for pickup?

Because social skills is the foundation for pickup, if you have bad social skills you’re not going to get far in your pickup skills.

You see, a lot of us grew up without developing our social skills…and that was the beginning cause for our lack of skills in handling women.

And the diagram below depicts the process where most guys who are struggling to learn pickup for a long time.

They are missing the basic social skills, as you can see is the empty white area, and so they learn pickup skills, the yellow area, that builds on top of that empty basic social skills; therefore, they have a weak foundation and the reason why hardly achieving any result and making learning pickup so much harder.

Learning pickup skills without this basic social skills, your pickup skills can eventually crumble.

The Evolved Pickup Artist (aka Social Artist)

The bigger picture is to focus on your social skills.

Social skills can be applied to all parts of your life, from social, personal, dating, and even professional (like have you thought about how marketing is almost like meeting women when comes to closing the deal?)

Why not be a social artist, who is highly socially skilled and have all aspects of your social life handled rather than just picking up women?

Being a social artist is an art within itself of course…the art to be the designer of your social life because you design the social dynamics interaction the way they want to bring the outcome you want, and picking up women is just one element of it.

When you are naturally socially skilled, having women in your life is natural, almost too easy…becoming secondary.

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